In my mid-thirties I found I was often not happy despite mothering four beautiful children, good health, a lovely home, an affluent lifestyle and many friends. Intimacy was missing in my marriage, but I had yet to learn to be intimate with my authentic self, my soul.
I was successfully following the map that had been designed for me by parental and cultural expectations.
Recently tuning into the February 23rd, 2016 weekly Marie TV blog on marieforleo.com, I watched an interview with Bronnie Ware, author of “The Top Five Regrets of the Dying.” Bronnie was a hospice nurse who listened to her patients voice regrets about their lives. The regret she heard repeated most often was: “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”
In my terms: “I wish I had been more soul-selfish.” Since that is the title of my soon-to-be published memoir, I was fascinated that Bronnie came to this wisdom from such a different life experience. In contrast to her, I wrote my book to share what I learned through my 46-year inner journey.
My longing sent me on a compelling introspective journey, tracing the causes of my unhappiness that began in childhood. I did not foresee that psychological, physical and spiritual processes would lead me to my soul, connected to the Universe. I did not realize that it would become my personal passion and professional work.
I wrote Soul Selfish to encourage you to stand for your happiness by looking within, releasing the limiting and erroneous thoughts and blocked emotions that bind you. We all have them. We are trained as children to be obedient to our parents, teachers and spiritual leaders.
Sustaining happiness requires that we become obedient to our genuine selves. As adults, our work is to let go of what we have accepted from outside that is not in line with who we truly are.
By gradually replacing beliefs and goals that don’t suit us, we create the opportunity to reconnect to our authenticity and happiness. From that soul connection, we more confidently present ourselves to the world.
I don’t mean to make it sound easy! There are inner and outer resistances that make the process challenging. Many want you to maintain your interpersonal contracts with them, making change more difficult. Discomfort and fear of the unknown is also a deterrent. Yet more than ever there are countless resources to support you on your journey. I hope you will allow me to be one of them.
I invite all of you to share your stories and support one another here.